Crazy Love
Even before I knew, I knew.*
In culture we say someone has ‘a 6th sense’, often half jokingly when, say, Diana appears to have predictive talents. And, all cards on the table… earlier today I was told, I don’t think we should keep dating.
My reaction: don’t worry. I felt this coming. This was as honest of a reaction as I could have given.
Inexplicably, the day prior to this news, I felt weighed down and down right miserable. I wanted to cry. I did cry. I took the day off from work. The whole morning was an alarming slog. My brain was in a fog; my limbs felt sloth like; and my stomach felt nauseous. On top of everything else, I was angry for feeling poorly without knowing why.
Knowing now that my body seemed to sense 36-hours in advance, my best explanation for the wave of illness? My body was pre-grieving the breakup.
I bring this up for two reasons.
First, Wevenly is all about how our environment shapes our mood and behavior. But our interior terrain equally colors how we respond to the moment.
And as I look back on the day before the news of said breakup, I’m realizing that I instinctively routed myself from the Roswell government office’s beige waiting room (for a necessary errand I’d been putting off) to the happiest place I could drive to within a few minutes. Migrating to Crazy Love Coffee House HELPED. In fact, I’d go so far as to say it was the place that —through a 90 minute visit— shifted my mood from depressive to okay-ish.
Talk about the power of place and atmosphere.
I also bring this story up because while I don’t wish what I’m feeling on anyone, if you find yourself getting an off bodily vibe for no perceivable reason, maybe it’s a sign it’s time to post up at a place with big windows, a lavender latte, and new view. At least in my case, relocating won’t work miracles but side effects can include an exhaling sensation and light mood lift.
Net net, happy or struggin’ cute cafe hopping is the move!
XX Wevenly
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This winter I enrolled in a strategy director program, and one of the guest speakers taught a class about ancient archetypes. During class she dropped mention of “BQ”.
I had never heard this term before but the concept resonated immediately. Just as we have IQ (intellect quotient) and EQ (emotional quotient) there’s also the measure of BQ, as in being “aware of the body and responding to the body's messages.”
I really think my body was trying to talk to me this week. And I’m so glad it directed me to not just Crazy Love but another great place… more to come in the next post.